“Shouldn’t we be honest about other people’s flaws? Isn’t a true friend the kind of person who criticizes in order to help his loved ones improve?”
Let’s delve into that question by first making a distinction you might find useful: “being critical” versus “being creative.”
“Being critical” means one is capable of identifying flaws and fallacies. This ability to separate fact from fiction is crucial to our survival and our relationships.
“Being creative” means one is capable of assimilating useful content into the ongoing process of manifesting their desires.
Navigating and observing life through the eyes of a creator is an entirely different orientation from navigating and observing life through the eyes of a critic.
While being critical is a highly valued skill, it will never be an effective substitute for being creative. In other words, you will never get where you want to go in life solely by being an expert at exposing other people’s shortcomings.
So here’s my two cents:
Do whatever you feel you need to do in order to be a loving friend, a responsible citizen, a loyal family member, or a good professional. If that involves being critical at times, so be it. Let no one judge you in these matters. If your criticism is truly helping others and genuinely contributing to your pursuit of a meaningful life, then continue following your own emotional guidance in this regard.
But if you find yourself frequently stressed out, constantly annoyed, and chronically distracted from your own needs for self-care, self-development, and self-expression, that might be a sign that you’re letting those pesky bodyguards bully you again. That’s when it’s time to be a tough-minded optimist and fight back. How do you fight back?
At the end of every day, you ask yourself if you’re satisfied with the amount of energy you’ve devoted to identifying and manifesting the desires that matter most to you. If the answer to that question is anything other than a resounding “Yes”, make the decision to spend less time reacting to things you don’t like and more time investing in the things that resonate with you.
Do this and not only will the bodyguards disappear, but you’ll also be happy to discover a previously untapped reservoir of both time and creative energy.
At least that’s my two cents. What are your thoughts?