What to do (or not to do) about annoying people
The next time you find yourself annoyed with someone, maybe it would help to consider the possibility that this individual is a genius who is on this earth to solve real problems that you personally don’t understand, have, or care about. Instead of trying to get other people to change, maybe you could encourage them to find their crowd and utilize their personality traits in a way that would benefit others.
If that sounds like too much work, maybe you can just leave them alone, let them be, and rest in the awareness that God gave them their personality for a reason. That understanding alone, tends to be much less stressful than being frustrated with the differences we can’t change.
One man’s problem is always another man’s problem solver. What annoys you may alleviate someone else’s annoyances. Maybe the very quality you hate about them is the same attribute that’s going to prevent someone else from jumping off the cliff and throwing it all away.
Does it not genuinely feel better to entertain a notion like that?
Why should you care about being more understanding, patient, & tolerant with annoying people?
I have seen very talented, brilliant, and driven people consume significant quantities of time and energy bemoaning someone else’s annoying qualities. I’ve also seen very gifted and unique individuals subdue their passions because of a fear of being annoying. Ultimately, how we judge others is intimately related to how we judge ourselves. When we lack compassion and insight in the assessments we make of our own personalities, we tend to extend those attitudes to other people and vice versa.
An improved ability to see other people’s annoyances in an appreciative light deepens our own capacity for self-love and self-respect. When you can be free of the need to judge others, you feel less intimidated when others judge you. When you practice the art of looking for evidence of genius in the people who irritate you, you become more privy to the genius within.
The better you are at getting over how annoying someone else is, the better you will be at remembering how fascinating you are. And there’s nothing the world needs more than someone who remembers how fascinating they are. We may find you a little annoying from time to time, but what else is new? Keep doing you and let others do the same.
Because it’s the right thing to do? Nope! It just feels better to live that way.
At least that’s my two cents. What’s yours?