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86% of your week is problem free

Conflict is an idea that exist primarily in the mind. As I minimize conflict in my thoughts, I reduce conflict in my experience.

90% mind, 10% matter

Have you ever heard the idea that your world is 90% mind, 10% matter?

It’s been well said that “life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”. Let’s really think about this for a moment, because this would be a very important concept if it’s actually true.

Even if we can’t do anything about 10% of our lives, 90% is still an awfully high percentage to maintain control over. Most people I know would be thrilled if they could just improve their lives by a mere 50%.

What’s the bottom line?

Let’s conduct a thought experiment.

Close your eyes and imagine an unpleasant experience from your past. It can be an argument with a friend, an embarrassing moment at work, whatever makes you feel unpleasant. Take your time and relive that experience thoroughly. Done?

Now ask yourself “how long was that event in real-time?” How much time did you actually spend arguing with your friend or embarrassing yourself at work? Please keep in mind the fact that I am not asking you to measure how long the problem affected you? I only want you to calculate how long the physical event of being in the presence of the problem actually lasted.

Do the math

While most of our unpleasant experiences may be relatively short-lived, let’s just assume that your experience lasted for a full, non-stop, uninterrupted period of 24hrs.

Now take 24hrs and divide that by the number of hours you’ve lived in the past week (168hrs per week).

24hrs/168hrs= 0.14

So that problem, measured as a physical event, constitutes about 14% of your life in the past week alone.

Is this not astonishing?

How can an unpleasant event that only comprises a meager 14% of our entire week, dominate our whole lives?

In Tomorrow’s post, I’ll give my two cents on why we allow “the 14%”, or what Richard Carlson called “the small stuff”, to push us around and block us from the life of happiness that is rightfully ours.

I hope you’ll join me. In the meantime, keep your head up.

Cheers 🙂

T.K. Coleman

This Post Has 4 Comments
  1. I had, for much of my life, habitually practiced letting momentary painful events affect me for years and at magnitudes far higher than was meaningful.

    It wasn’t until I finally saw I had a choice in how to respond to circumstances, and for how long, that I finally began to break free of this self-inflicted pain.

    Problem we run into is that our habits of thought are so close to us, so familiar, that we don’t even realize we are choosing to do them. We wrongly believe they are part of us and unchangable.

    Similar to the objective of your blog, where you have CHOSEN to fill your mind and share with others, positive thoughts and perspectives, we can all do the same by ceasing our negative focus on momentary pains.

    I’m am so with you on this one. Having practiced it both ways, I will choose to not dwell on the problems and thereby make them worse.



    1. Thanks so much for sharing that with me, Chaz. I feel you, bro…or as they say in “Avatar”, I see you 🙂 It definitely takes a committed investment to rewire our brains to NOT dwell on those past unchangeable events, but people like yourself and I are not only doing it, but we’re giving others permission to do the same. I’m so glad to be a part of this.



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