Does like really attract like?
Today’s post is inspired by a question that was posed to me about the Law of Attraction.
For those of you who may be unfamiliar with the concept, I define the law of attraction as a principle which expresses the following:Whatever you radiate or send out into the Universe, in the form of thoughts, intentions, feelings, words, and actions, will inevitably be mirrored back to you in the form of circumstances and conditions which reflect the energy of what you sent out.
This principle is frequently expressed as “like attracts like.”
According to the Law of Attraction, if you’re constantly sending out thoughts of defeat, you will attract conditions which support the defeatist view of reality you’ve chosen.
Likewise, If you’re habitually sending out thoughts of well-being, you will attract conditions which support the positive thoughts you’ve chosen.
Now, here’s the question that was raised:Does the scientific notion that “opposites attract” negate the Law of Attraction?
Here are my thoughts on the subject:
The scientific notion that opposites attract does not negate the Law of Attraction. It only attempts to provide a mechanical explanation for how sub-atomic particles with certain properties are attracted to one another. Simply put, positively charged particles (Protons) are drawn towards negatively charged particles (Neutrons) and vice versa.
It’s important to note that the above stated scientific principle is ONLY addressing subatomic particles. The laws of nature are not being violated when non-smokers leave the room because someone lights up a cigarette. Opposites do not always attract when we’re dealing with elements other than tiny particles in a science lab.
When teachers of the Law of Attraction say “Like attracts Like”, they are not referring to every single factor involved in the event of two elements being attracted to one another, but to the “energetic compatibility” of the elements involved.
By “energetic compatibility”, I simply mean that there is a common energetic quality that makes two elements drawn to each other.
The key is to remember that the Law of Attraction is not about two elements being IDENTICAL. It’s about two elements being COMPATIBLE.
Sometimes opposites are more alike than we suppose
Many things are opposites in one sense, while still being alike or energetically compatible because of other factors.
A Male & Female, for instance, are opposites in terms of gender, but they may be energetically compatible because of their romantic attraction to one another. It’s a classic case of “opposites attract” if you’re focusing on their gender differences, but it’s a simple instance of “like attracts like”, if you focus on the aspect of two lovers seeking companionship.
A Buyer & Seller are clearly opposites in terms of what they do, but they are energetically compatible because each one is looking for what the other provides. Hence they are drawn to each other. Once again, it’s a classic case of “opposites attract” if we focus on the role each person plays in the transaction, but it’s also an example of “like attracts like” if you look at the transaction as two traders looking for someone who possesses something desirable to exchange.
In every case where opposites seem to attract, we are simply observing two elements with opposite features that share a like tendency towards balance or resolution.
If you observe closely, you’ll find that every instance of attraction involves both opposites and similarities depending on what vantage point you are looking at it from.
I prefer to think of the Law of Attraction as “The Principle of Compatibility.”
In practical terms, you must entertain thoughts that are compatible with well-being if you wish to attract fulfilling experiences.
In reality, you might attract something that looks like the opposite of what you imagined, but it will always be compatible with the energy of whatever you choose to focus on.
Hopefully that helps.