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Must An Optimist Always Be Positive?

Must an optimist always be cheerful and happy?

Absolutely not! Everyone has emotional downslides.

One shouldn’t hesitate to cultivate a positive outlook in fear of being looked at as a failure or hypocrite should an outburst of negative emotion happen at some point in the future.

The key to remember is this;

An optimist isn’t someone who never feels negative. An optimist is someone who knows how to be positive even about their own negativity.

People often use positive thinking as just another excuse for beating up on themselves. They read one book and decide in one week that they’re going to completely transform a negative mindset that it took them 20 years to develop. Then after having one failure, they assume something must be inordinately wrong with themselves for being so negative.

Nothing’s wrong with you. You’re human. You’re an emotional being. You’re alive, thank God.

Most importantly, you’re not going to evolve into perfection overnight. Optimism is a discipline like everything else. You get better with practice and you grow with time.

So you lost your cool this morning with that one guy who cut you off on the highway. So what? You can either be negative about your negativity or you can be positive about your negativity.

You can give up and remain stuck in your current state of consciousness or you can use those negative outburst as an opportunity to release suppressed energy, increase self-awareness, and explore healthier ways to process your feelings.

There are times in your life when you will have “unenlightened” responses to conflict. When you can love yourself unconditionally during THESE moments, you have achieved all the optimism you’ll ever need.

Don’t use your inevitable moments of imperfection as an excuse to stop pushing yourself towards a life of greater joy and well-being.

Be creative and put a positive spin on your negative days.

That’s my two cents. What are your thoughts?

T.K. Coleman

If you liked this post, check out:

1. Why you don’t need to apologize for having a bad day

2. Today doesn’t have to be the best day ever

3. Perkiness & positivity are two different things

This Post Has 9 Comments
    1. Hi Heidi,

      Thanks for asking. It looks like I need to figure that part out. At this point, I only know who to direct readers to my email subscription option. I’m not sure why no option to subscribe to the rss feed is showing. I’ll get back to you if I come up with a work around. Thanks for asking

      Cheers 🙂


  1. Love it! And this is something I was pondering as well. I was considering doing a blog myself. And I have two books I am writing. The weird thing is I often wondered silently to myself what would I do if one of my readers “caught” me having an off day? You never know the impression one can leave on people. I Appreciate that your comments allowed me to look at it again in a more light-hearted way. Thanks, T. K.! 🙂

    1. Thanks Elisha,

      Oh, I know exactly what you mean. I thought about that before I started too. It’s funny because blogging regularly has made me accountable to my ideals in a way that is so beneficial now and I love it. I’m sure you’ll love it too if you decide to blog. Keep me posted. I’d love to read and support the material you write. Let’s continue enjoying and expressing our connection to Source in a light-hearted way. We are always loved..even on the off days.

      Cheers buddy 🙂
      …..and thanks a million for stopping by my blog 🙂


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