When I worked as a waiter, I would often have other waiters warn me about a particular customer and how difficult they were to serve. Because I refused to accept my co-workers’ experiences as a law governing my own possibilities, I was able to attract a different outcome on most occasions. People who were supposed to be mean, turned out to be nice. People who had reputations for being mediocre tippers, ended up rewarding me handsomely.
I’ve gone on to learn that this transfers to other matters as well. When I allow the negative expectations of others to pollute my thinking, I tend to have sub par experiences. When I maintain a positive attitude in spite of other people’s history of negative experiences in a given area, I tend to generate pleasant results which deviate from the supposed “norm.”
Ernest Holmes wrote:“The Laws of nature are universal, but our use of them is individual and personal.”
Whether choosing friends, business partners, schools, or a car mechanic, how events unfold for you will always be unique to the quality of energy you radiate.
Advice is nice, but so many people uncritically treat their personal experiences as a general rule when it’s nothing more than the way in which they tend to process various situations based on what they know, don’t know. fear, or expect.
Be respectful and kind to people who offer their advice, but never supplant your own judgement with another’s subjective vantage point.
The possibilities for your life are not determined by the experiences of others.
You have to experience life for yourself. There’s simply no way around it. That’s a good thing.
At least that’s the way I see it.