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A double negative is a positive so don’t be negative

Here’s another one of my shortcuts to a more optimistic life:

Instead of being positive, try to be a little less negative. It wont turn you into Michael J. Fox overnight, but you can gradually retrain your mind to be more open to positivity.

Many pessimist, believe that negative speech is necessary for honest communication. In reality, much of our negative speech consists of highly exaggerated claims about how unfair life is being towards us. There’s no good reason, in my opinion, why some of these dramatic descriptions can’t be negotiated to some extent.

A few examples:

Instead of saying “this is a horrible day”, try “this isn’t my best day” or “I’ve had better days.” Is the day really filled with horror just because traffic was busy and you were late for work? Is it really necessary that a tough start be placed in the same category as “A Nightmare on Elm Street?”

Instead of saying “I hate her”, try “she’s not my favorite person” or “she just doesn’t do it for me.” You just met the girl and she’s not very likeable. Does she really have to be described with the same term we use to refer to life long enemies?

Instead of “I suck at life” or “I’m a screw up”, try “I made a big mistake” or “I have a few areas I could really use some work in.” You failed at something important. There’s no need to lie about it. But is it absolutely vital to speak of your failures as if you are a worthless scoundrel? What ever happened to the saying “to err is human”?

Instead of “I don’t know what to do”, try “I wish I knew what to do” or “I’m eager to figure this thing out.” Maybe you don’t know what to do, but does ignorance need to be conveyed with such finality? Is it possible that you could transform your expression of ignorance from a statement into a question, thereby influencing your receptivity to a possible answer?

These are a few of my examples and thoughts.

Do you have any?


T.K. Coleman

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