I ended yesterday’s post promising to share a few things I’ve learned along the way about being happy. I ‘d like to offer my two cents on four adjustments you can make in your daily life that reduce the amount of stress and unhappiness you feel. Today, I’ll give the first two and we’ll deal with numbers three & four on tomorrow. For now, enjoy…1) Stop trying to force yourself to feel good about things that don’t actually feel good to you.
To do so is simply a form of lying to yourself. You like what you like and you dislike what you dislike. This is not a bad thing.
Your preferences, tastes, and emotional sensitivities have been given to you for a reason. They are the elements that make you interesting, unique, and creative. Without them, you become a boring dispensable cliché, no matter how positive you may look on the outside.2) Manage the amount of time you spend dwelling on the things you dislike.
Just because something displeases you doesn’t mean you have to give your attention to it. It’s a fallacy to think you’re always being helpful to others by feeling bad for them.
Wayne Dyer wrote “You can’t make one sick person healthier by sacrificing your own health.” Sometimes, the best thing you can do for someone who needs help is to empower yourself to make practical differences by investing your energy in positive thoughts and productive choices.
A depressed person doesn’t just need another depressed person. They also need someone who can reach out to them from a different place offering them a fresh perspective.
You can’t develop the freshness of perspective they need unless you pull your attention away from depressing things long enough to find a new point of focus.
This is true of your own problems as well. It’s good to be aware of what you don’t want, but it’s the shifting of your focus towards what you DO want that activates your creative thinking and opens you to new options.
In Tomorrow’s post, I’ll continue with this topic a bit more. You should join me.