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“But, it’s true!”

Just because something is true doesn’t mean it’s automatically worth talking about or dwelling upon.

If someone asks “how was your drive to work this morning?”, you are not morally or legally obligated to say “traffic was horrible and everyone was driving like they were insane” EVEN IF it’s true.

People frequently offer negative reports about their experiences while justifying themselves by saying “but it’s true!” The assumption being made is that no truth can afford to be ignored. But what about all of the other truths that we routinely leave out of our day’s descriptions?

In any given moment, there are literally millions of facts that we can give our attention to.

I rarely hear people say things like “Today was a success. My heart beat was steady all day , there was plenty of oxygen to breathe, I saw a lot of healthy looking trees all around, I had clothes to wear and food to eat.”Β That may sound funny or fluffy, BUT IT’S TRUE!

Here’s the funny thing about truth. Facts have no value apart from the context which gives meaning to them. If you randomly call a friend and tell them that you were wearing a pair of blue gym shoes, they will probably ask why you feel the need to tell them that. “But it’s true” has never been a satisfactory answer to the question “what is your point?”

If the facts you’re reporting aren’t helping you move towards a positive goal, then what’s your point? If all you’re interested in doing is “keeping it real” and “telling it like it is”, then you might as well tell me how many #2 pencils you own or what color T-shirt you’re wearing. Those facts would be just as true as stuff you complain about.

If, however, you have positive goals, then it might benefit you to ask yourself if the facts you’re about to dwell on are going to empower you or drain you.

When it’s all been said and done, Joy is the whole point of life. If you find yourself making a point that distracts you from that point, then it might be better to point your attention in a different direction.

T.K. Coleman

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  1. I agree on how many of us…(myself too sometimes!) are programmed with ‘what went wrong’ aspect of storytelling. It’s become the norm…and I am going to try and make an effort for my ‘new normal’ :o)

    1. Me too, Katy. We’re working on this one together. It definitely takes practice because of the programming you refer to, but we’ll prevail one way or another, right? Cheers πŸ™‚ -TK

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