During the Summer following my first year of college, I worked at a retail store near the neighborhood where I grew up. When the manager first hired me, she offered me $8 an hour and I gladly accepted.
I quickly became her favorite employee. I had no social life and really wanted the money so I worked whenever she wanted me to. Within a month, she made me the supervisor over my department. One day while having a conversation with one of the new employees, She told me she had just been hired in at $12 an hour. I asked her how and she told me that’s what she asked for.
I couldn’t even get mad. I knew my income was what is was because I had sold myself short. I simply hadn’t known that asking for more was an option.
Since then, I’ve created many experiences that I wasn’t “qualified” to create because of that valuable lesson. I’ve also been turned down a number of times as well, but that doesn’t matter to me one bit. The times I’ve been turned down don’t outweigh the adventures I’ve had as a result of asking. Plus, each experience of being told “no” only made me wiser and more creative.
Here’s my two cents for you:
You have the right and responsibility (to yourself, of course) to ask for anything you desire or require in life.
Whether it’s a raise, a vacation, a date with someone you’re interested in, an extension, a loan, a second chance, an opportunity, forgiveness, evidence, a question, time, help, or anything else you can think of.
The people who are successful at creating the experiences they want, are the ones who don’t talk themselves out of their possibilities before asking.
The people who fail at this are usually the ones who are geniuses at coming up with reasons not to make their request known. Schools all around the world are filled with underperforming students who struggle simply because they’re afraid to ask for the assistance they need.
There’s always a reason for not asking. Sometimes asking will get you laughed at. Sometimes it will make others wonder what in the world is wrong with you. Sometimes it will result in people telling you “no” or even scolding you for daring to raise a question.
If you want a life filled with creative adventures and brilliant answers, you must learn to learn to completely ignore all of those reasons for why you shouldn’t ask.
People have the right to say “no” to you, but that’s something they can perfectly do for themselves. Don’t sell yourself short by saying “no” for them.
Whether you’re religious or not, it would do us all a bit of good to remember the wisdom of the New Testament when it says “you have not because you ask not.”
How can you use the power of asking to move yourself closer to the life you dream of?