I’ve been told that a drowning man cannot be saved if he persists in his struggle. Unless he completely submits to the assistance being offered to him, he will not only lose his own life, but he will also submerge his would-be savior in the process.
If someone isn’t willing to let go of their struggle, then you must be ready to step back and let life do the teaching.
No one is served when you sacrifice your well-being in an attempt to help someone who is not receptive to you or your efforts.
People don’t need us to save them. They need us to respect their God-given freedom to discover their knowledge of self under terms and conditions which honor their autonomy.
This is an attitude which can be held without irritation or self-righteous judgement. There is never a need to bemoan those who “don’t get it.”
Respect for another person’s freedom doesn’t come from frustration, but from an understanding that everyone has the potential to be the dominant creative force in their own life and, if the opportunity is given, they will inevitably unearth their inner treasures for themselves.
If someone is asking for your help, feel free to give them everything you can. If someone you care for, however, refuses assistance, then love them enough to let them struggle.