“She loves me, she loves me not”
In high school, my buddies and I made an art out of the practice of sitting around and wondering “does she like me?” or “what would she say if I asked for her number?” We never got anywhere because we were too scared to actually ask. Our questions were certainly important to us, but they were not monumental enough to warrant the risk of looking like a fool.
Since then I’ve learned that looking like a fool is one of the most liberating experiences one can have. Once you experience foolishness from the inside, the myth is exposed; you find out that you’re not going to die, disappear, or descend into Hell when you trip over your own feet, fall flat on your face, or do something “uncool”. You realize that you’re not only still alive and okay, but that nobody really cared about all of the internal drama you were putting yourself through anyway.
At that point, a courage begins to come over you. With the illusion-based fear of foolishness behind you, you start to consider the other possibilities you’ve always wanted to explore. Ultimately, you discover that the initial chance you took wasn’t even about the result. It was just the Universe’s “trick” to get you started; a cosmic set-up specifically designed to get your energy flowing with the current of who you really are; a carefully constructed conspiracy to make you comfortable with the ebb and flow of the creative process; a hidden agenda to mold you into the unstoppable force in your personal experience.
Bust a move
The possibilities of life will never force themselves upon us. Like a woman who knows her worth, they must be consciously pursued and creatively wooed. One must be willing to flirt with his dreams in smooth and subtle ways; to send signals that will establish a connection; to make moves that will create an impression.
Life can be experienced as a spiritually and physically abundant adventure. We have the power to create that experience. Moreover, this is the only way that such an experience can be had.
Don’t sit around with your buddies speculating about your dreams and creative ideas. That may be a fun place to start, but there’s only one way to find your groove;
Take a chance and ask for a dance!
I’ll see you on the dance floor,