Time is free, but the activities we spend it on are not.
Every second spent in a place of negative focus comes at the cost of a potential investment opportunity in our well-being.
When others ask us to join them in their rants about what’s wrong with the world, they are soliciting us to make a transaction which requires the expenditure of our most valuable commodity; time.
Are we as prudent and discrete with the use of our time as we are with our money?
Time + energy + attention = life force. That’s what’s at stake.
Are we selfish enough to ask ‘what’s in it for me?’ when our life force is requested of us? Are we fascinated enough with our goals to see anything which distracts from our positive focus as the time-wasting dream stealer that it actually is?
Do we ask: Does this conversation really serve me? What value am I deriving from it? Is this activity related to any of my goals? Can any of the participants refund my time if it turns out to be a total waste? How is this moment making me better?
The next time someone invites you to join their life-bashing session, simply say “I would love to, but I honestly don’t have the time. I’ve alloted my entire schedule to creating and enjoying that which pleases me.”
That’s my two cents.