How “I tried” to mail a package
Today, I went to the post office to send a package to a friend in Chicago.
When I arrived, there was a line which extended outside the front doors and around the street corner. I comforted myself with the thought that I had an Ipod with me.
I stood in line for an hour and still was not close to getting inside the building. As I started to think of all the things I wanted to accomplish before the day’s end, I grew impatient and started to reconsider: “I don’t need to send this out today. I have a little time. Perhaps, I’ll come back next week and take care of it then”, I thought. Satisfied by that bit of inner monologue, I left and ran my other errands.
When my wife, who knew of my goals for the day, asked me if I sent the package out, I said “I tried.”
What does it mean to “try”
We often utter the phrase “I tried” as if it’s an expression of defeat. To many of us, “I tried” means “I did the best i could do, but reality stopped me. Something got in my way. The Universe wouldn’t allow me to participate in the experience I attempted to create.”
In reality, “I tried” simply means “I made a sincere effort to perform a certain task or pursue a specific goal. Once the perceived cost of performing that task or pursuing the goal exceeded what I was willing to pay, I decided to cease my efforts.”
In other words, “I tried” is only half the story. The other half is “until I chose to stop investing my time and energy in something that was less of a priority to me than other things.”
Barring death or physical inability, it is theoretically possible to continue trying anything you want to try for an indefinite period of time.
So when we say “I tried” (past tense), unless we are speaking from beyond the grave or are physically incapacitated, we’re simply announcing the fact that we have other agendas in which we’d rather pour our resources.
“I tried” is an expression of freedom NOT defeat
We always have the option to keep trying and we also have the opportunity to move on and try something different.“I tried” to learn, “I tried” to figure it out, “I tried” to become better, “I tried” to manifest my dreams, “I tried” and “I tried.”
Well, keep trying if it’s worth it to you. If it’s not worth the effort anymore, then try something that is worth it to you. Either way, TRY to avoid framing your efforts and experiences in terms that take the power of choice out of your own hands.
You’re not obligated to continue trying anything that’s unimportant to you, but you do owe it to yourself to recognize and respect your freedom.
The next time you say “I tried”, remember to tell the most important part of the whole story:
“I tried, BUT after carefully considering the cost, I DECIDED to EXERCISE my POWER to CREATE a result that was more consistent with my FREELY CHOSEN set of priorities.
With that kind of attitude, and the sense of confidence and control that comes with it, your story will eventually change to “I succeeded.”
That’s my two cents,