During my training days as a waiter, I approached a table, a few minutes after delivering the food, and asked “Is everything okay?”
My manager overheard me and pulled me aside: “You’re doing a good job, but in the future try asking them if everything is great. We don’t want our guests to tolerate their experience here. We want them to love it. If the meal or service is anything less than great, we want to make improvements.”
Ask & Receive
If you ask an okay question, you’ll get an okay answer. If you act on an okay answer, your choices will yield an okay result. A series of okay results will ultimately amount to an okay life.
It’s okay to live an okay life, but it’s better to live a better life and even greater to live a great life.
Many people want to feel better and live well, but their questions are pointing them in the opposite direction:Is it okay if I exercise this way versus that way? Is it okay if I eat this kind of food as opposed to the other kind? Is it okay if I hang out with this group of people, listen to this kind of music, or buy these kinds of products?
These kind of permission seeking questions are based on the fear of getting it wrong, the desire to play it safe, or the belief that we’re forced to settle for what life automatically hands us. Unfortunately, the answers they attract lead to results that are mediocre and boring.
Everything is okay, but everything is not great
You can’t discover what’s good, better, or great by limiting your inquiries and possibilities to the pursuit of what’s okay.
The next time you seek counsel, request advice, check on a friend, or follow up on a customer, ask for the type of answer that will actually take you where you want to be.Would it be great if I bought this book? Would it be amazing if I went out on this date? Would it be awesome if I told them how I really feel? Would it be fantastic if I tried something new? Would it be fabulous if I created this product, solved this problem, or accepted that job offer?
The answer to some of those questions might be a disappointing “no”, but at least you’ll be on the path to figuring out what will get you a “yes.”
And that’s a much better option than settling for okay and calling it a day.
That’s my two cents,