Fight for the ones that have your back, stay close to those that make you feel good about yourself, and frequently engage the ones that move you closer to your goals.
If, on the other hand, they insist on shooting down your dreams, making you feel horrible, and keeping you stuck in cycles of misery, then stand up for yourself and tell them to take a hike.
“I stink at life”, “there’s no hope for me”, “it’s too late for me to change”, or “things will probably never get better” are like bad friends who come over to your house everyday, eat all your food, make fun of the way you look, tell you that you’re an idiot, damage your furniture, steal your money, and never offer you anything of value.
We’d never tolerate such friends, but we allow such thoughts to hang out in our heads all day long.
Why defend ideas that never defend you? Why remain loyal to beliefs that do nothing more than drain your resources and make YOU feel guilty for it?
At some point, you have to get suspicious and start asking questions: Why are you in my life? What value do you bring to my existence? How do I really know for sure that I can trust you? What do other people think and say about you? Are there any reputable people out there who regard you as a bad influence? What can I learn from having a conversation with them? Can I do better than this? Are there any reputable people who believe that I can do better? What do they have to say?
One of life’s greatest tragedies is watching intelligent people use their brilliance to fight for ideas that are antithetical to everything they want in life.
Don’t be one of those people.
Use your brilliance to support ideas that support you.