Many of us live in a world of “shoulds” and “should nots.” We spend large blocks of time being frustrated with people who did what they shouldn’t have done or who didn’t do what they should have done.
We feel justified living this way because in our heads we’re convinced that we’re right.
The person driving in front of us SHOULD have used their turn signal. That person we said “hello” to SHOULD have been nice enough to say “hello” back to us. The friend who let us down SHOULD NOT have done that.
But just because someone owes us something doesn’t mean we’re going to get it.
There are thousands of business owners who possess legal documents proving that someone owes them something. Yet, they write off the obligations as “bad debt” because they can’t successfully collect what’s owed to them. These businesses are right, but they’re not getting what they want.
Which option sounds more preferable: Having the ability to prove that you’re right or possessing the knowledge of what you want and how to get it?
The best question to ask isn’t “do they owe me?”, but rather “how can I effectively create the experiences I wish to have?”
Whether anybody owes us anything or not, the responsibility for creating what we want falls in our lap every time.
If we don’t make it happen, it wont happen.
Finding someone to blame for our unwanted experiences will never be as satisfying as the practice of flowing creative energy at what we truly want.
That’s my two cents and you don’t owe me anything,