Those who seek to justify their more than brief excursions into the the negative, often tout as their mantra, “but it’s true.”
“But it’s true” is usually short for “Since it’s true, it must be important or beneficial to talk about” or “Because it’s true, it would be wrong for me to ignore it.”
Let’s put that logic to the test:
Suppose you’re driving in the rain on a busy highway and I’m the passenger in your car.
“Oh my gosh!”, I say, “There’s a HUGE accident over there to my right. You totally HAVE to take a look.”
You say: “Stop asking me to look at accidents. I’m trying to drive.”
“But, dude, IT’S TRUE!!!” is my retort.
Yes, it’s true.
There really is an accident over there and it actually is as bad as I claimed it to be.
But if you take your eyes off the road and pay attention to what I’m saying, you raise the probability of another accident occurring.
In cases like the above, truth is a distraction because it pulls your awareness away from what you need to be focused on in order get where you’re going.
Here’s a small truth about truth:No matter what you choose to converse or think about, your perspective will always leave some facts, good and bad, out of the discussion. Your health, happiness, and success depends on the ability to manage your attention by excluding from your focus those truths that distract from your goals.
The next time your brain, your friend, or whoever tries to convince you that you will die if you don’t indulge every story of sorrow or scandal, ask yourself the following three questions;
1) Where am I going?
2) What do I need to focus on in order to get there?
3) Will zooming in on this truth help or hurt my efforts?
Your time and energy is so valuable that you ought to hold every truth that demands your attention to high standards.
You don’t need to know all the facts to thrive in life. What you need is to stay focused on your priorities.
There are no if, ands, or buts, about that one.
At least that’s the way I see it.