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How to move on swiftly and decisively

Yesterday, someone who shall not be named, went onto my Optimism Facebook page and posted an “inappropriate” comment.

My reaction consisted of two steps and lasted about ten seconds:

I blocked the person from my page to prevent them from doing such things in the future. I deleted their comment so I wouldn’t have to look at it. Then, I was done. Just like that.

I didn’t call up my best friend to tell him about the experience. I didn’t sit back and speculate on the reasons why this person may have said what they said. I didn’t ask, “why me?” I didn’t correct the other person nor did I lash out at them. I didn’t even take advantage of the opportunity to be annoyed. Who has that kind of time?

As I always do, I asked myself the following questions:

1) What kinds of experiences, internally and externally, would I like to create today?

2) What kind of response to this situation promises me the greatest likelihood of being able to focus on that?

I ran the situation through that two question filter, I acted on the conclusion, then I moved on with my beautiful day.

I even made the situation serve me by parlaying a blog post out of it illustrating how to move on swiftly and decisively when you encounter annoyances.

I hope that little story can help you in some way.


T.K. Coleman

This Post Has 6 Comments
  1. I hΓ‘ve wondered about why ppl negatively remark at the negative remarks that others make and then negatively remark back at the negative remark that was posted at the original remark….
    And mΓ³st off all I wondered why the youtube user did not delete them…Like it is offensive to delete something offensive.
    And now I have allready given to much attention to it anyway πŸ˜€
    Have a grrrreat day

    Oh ps: I didnt know untill now you had facebook as well πŸ™‚

    1. Hi Caroline. Yup, I am on facebook too. I have two pages; One is Tough-Minded Optimism and the other is Gossip Gone Good. Feel free to stop by and say “hi.” I completely get and agree with what you’re saying here. So many people put up with bullies and invalidators because they’re afraid to offend, but they end up feeling frustrated and powerless in the end. Not the way to go for me. As I get older and become more “protective” of my happiness, I spend less time worrying about offending invalidators. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me πŸ™‚

  2. Thanks T.K. I needed to hear that today. A similar thing happened to me and I had a similar response as you did but hearing from you, validated that I am not the only one and reinforced that I did the right thing. Just because they are in a negative place doesn’t mean I have to be. It is good practice for me to let it go and focus on what really matters. Close friends, positive connections, abundance and love.


    1. I appreciate you sharing that with me, Nancy πŸ™‚ Sometimes, all we need is another example of what someone else is going through in order to help increase our confidence that we’re doing the right thing. I relate to you all the way. Some people attempt to validate themselves by invalidating others and it’s so important that we disconnect from their vibration as quickly as possible. I love those higher areas of focus you mention; “friends, positive connections, abundance and love.” That’s definitely what it’s all about πŸ™‚

  3. ”What kinds of experiences, internally and externally, would I like to create today?” I believe this question is very important, and we should ask ourselves everyday. Thank you for posting this experience.

    1. I agree wholeheartedly. It gives such a positive and deliberate focus to how we channel our energy on a daily basis. I refuse to deal with any situation without first making myself conscious of what my answer to that question is.

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