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Let THEM say “no”

If you want something, ask for it.

It’s other people’s job to tell you what they are and are not willing to do.

It’s not your job to say “no” for them.

It’s your job to take responsibility for creating what you want and sometimes that process requires you to honestly make your needs known to others.

Someone somewhere is talking themselves out of an opportunity right now because they don’t want to trouble anyone with their seemingly small questions and supposedly minor concerns.

Elsewhere, a person in a similar situation is acquiring valuable resources, insights, and advantages simply because they chose to step up and ask.

Asking for what you truly want doesn’t work every single time, but suppressing authentic expression of your desires will always place you on the losing side.

It’s better to ask and be told “no” every once in awhile than it is to just count yourself out by assuming no one wants to be bothered by your “petty” concerns.

Don’t be afraid of rejection. If someone doesn’t want to respond agreeablely to your request, that’s THEIR issue.

And don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about being an asker either. There’s absolutely nothing about seeking assistance that contradicts your standing as a responsible self-reliant individual.

Mastering the art of intelligently and respectfully soliciting the cooperation of others, is an essential staple in every creator’s toolbox.

There isn’t a happy or successful individual on the planet who would testify to the contrary.

That’s my two cents for the day.

What are your thoughts?

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  1. You nailed another issue again. I have tried to raise my daughter to always ask, never assume someone is going to say NO — I know from my experience where I would often not ask and therefore missed out on a lot of things I desired. Asked with a tad of confidence and no expectation you can open your world to a lot of YES.
    Thanks, TK

    1. You are so right about that! And what a great way to raise your daughter. In my experience, I’ve found that one “yes” can easily outweigh a hundred “no’s” 🙂

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