“You are not in this alone. So stop acting like it. Join a community group or create one yourself — these provide great accountability and encouragement.” -Jim Woods
Life is tough for all of us, but it’s ten times tougher for those who convince themselves that they don’t have anybody.
“I’m all alone and I have no one to help me” is a very seductive story because it provides us with a shortcut to significance. We all want to feel special and what faster way to achieve this than to say “I am uniquely disadvantaged”?
But making oneself feel special by telling a “no one understands me” story comes at a great cost; the more we alienate ourselves from communities of support, the more we pay the price of being stuck in our misery.
Here’s Today’s Two Cents:
You DO have somebody, no matter what that voice inside of your head tells you.
You may be too busy dismissing them as someone who wont make a difference, but you have somebody.
You may be too busy selling yourself on the idea that there’s no time to connect with them, but you have somebody.
You may be too busy telling a story about how complicated, inconvenient, or uncomfortable it would be to go out and meet them, but you have somebody.
You may be too busy coming up with reasons for why you shouldn’t ask anyone for help, but you have somebody.
You may be too busy equating future networking opportunities with past failures at networking, but you have somebody.
You have somebody who can challenge you in ways you will never challenge yourself. You have somebody who can help you find perspectives you won’t figure out on your own. They’re not perfect, either, but they’re THERE for you and that’s what counts.
So, stop telling yourself that you’re all alone and start opening yourself up to the people who would love to be a part of your journey.