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Even when life is hard, it can be easy

There are two kinds of ease; internal ease and external ease.

Internal ease refers to the sense of relief you feel in the absence of resistance. It’s the by-product of how successfully you conquer or cope with the bullshit inside of your own head.

External ease refers to the relative absence of challenging circumstances. It’s the by-product of not being inconvenienced. This is the kind of “happily ever after” ease we see at the end of Disney movies.

When someone says “life is hard” or “it’s never easy”, you might want to pay close attention to which sense of the word “ease” they’re using. If they mean, “you’re going to have circumstances you can’t control”, then they’re right. If they mean, “you can’t control the amount of resistance you feel”, then there’s room for debate.

Since contrast is an essential part of personal growth, you’ll always have some challenging circumstances to address, but that doesn’t mean you have to lose the battle against the bullshit inside of your head.

What you do with your resistance is always up to you.

Have you ever seen those olympic athletes who make it look easy? Well, it’s NOT easy. That’s just how they make it look. They make it look that way because, even though their competitive events are extremely challenging (on the outside), they’re in a total state of composure and control (on the inside).

“Having it easy” doesn’t have to mean sunshine, rainbows, and lollipops every moment of the day. “Having it easy” can simply be the process of fostering self-love, self-mastery, and self-determination¬†even in the presence of events that seem complex or out of control.

Life doesn’t have to be hard, because hard circumstances don’t get to define your life.

You can have an easy life, regardless of how hard it is, if you take it easy on yourself and release the self-defeating ideas that keep you from dropping your resistance here and now.

It’s not an easy process, but as long as you don’t resent that simple fact, it can sure as hell feel like it.

At least that’s my two cents,

T.K. Coleman

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