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Is everything going to be okay?

It all depends on what you mean.

If “everything is going to be okay” means there wont be any challenging or contrasting experiences in your life, then everything is definitely not going to be okay.

If “everything is going to be okay” means you have the ability to successfully adapt to your circumstances, confidently cope with whatever challenges you have, and creatively make the best of whatever situation you find yourself in, then everything is going to be okay.

So, you tell me: Is everything going to be okay?

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  1. If the second definition is correct then yes, everything will be okay. Unfortunately, not many people think about it in that sense, instead people mostly go for the first one. They hope that challenging and contrasting experiences will wait for another day when they are more capable to handling it. It doesn’t work that way though, these experiences will happen whether we are prepared or not. Currently in my life, everything will be okay as in the second definition. I am working on adapting to the situation face each problem with confidence, not that it always works that way, but I am trying to make everything okay. But whether we adapt to the circumstances or not and whether we face these circumstances with confidence or timidity, does it really end the way that we wanted?

    1. You’re exactly right, Emmy. All good thoughts here. All too often, we look for the sense of things being okay to come from the outside. This happens with small everyday scenarios as well. One person attends a party and thinks “I hope it goes well” while another person decides to have a good time no matter how “it” goes. We significantly underestimate our place and power as creative forces.

      You write: But whether we adapt to the circumstances or not and whether we face these circumstances with confidence or timidity, does it really end the way that we wanted?

      Good question! My two cents? We apply the same attitude. Are you going to label the situation as “bad” because things don’t end the way you want, or are you going to find and focus on the element that has a genuine positive meaning? I’ve learned that having it easier isn’t always the same as having it better, and getting what I want isn’t always the same as getting what is truly good for my psychological growth, mental development, and long-term happiness. So, yes, sometimes we have a positive attitude and things still seem to not go our way, BUT the perception that things are not going our way is just another self-defeating belief that it would do us good to overcome.

      What do you think?

      1. Sorry it took so long to answer to this post T.K., my computer has issues sometimes.

        I think that you are very right T.K.!

        I agree that having it easier isn’t the same as having it better, and I’ve yet to get what I wanted from things but the few outcomes that have ended have usually ended pretty well because of the confidence I faced the issues with, and so far they have helped my psychological growth, mental development, but long-term happiness is still being worked on. I suppose that the perception on the situation of things not going our way is the perception on how you wanted it to be and the it will be, this can be combined with the perception of how you look at yourself. This being in a positive light or negative can also affect your outcomes on the situation. Or at least I would think so. I’ve only labled one situation “bad” and that was because of the overall outcome as being a negative situation to my mental health and the mental health of those that were involved, now I look back on this and think that it really had a positive part to it all. It allowed me to grow up mentally and pyschologically, though at the time I was in pure mental turmoil.

        You write: “…BUT the perception that things are not going our way is just another self-defeating belief that would do us good to overcome.”

        Yes, it would do us good, it would probably do us a lot of good, but few people (or at least the few that I know on a day to day basis) do not overcome this, so they sit and perceive that if it isn’t their way its a bad situation. There can be a negative or positive part to every situation, depending on how you would look at it. I’ll use your example of the party. Yes, you can going thinking that you hope it goes well, and then something may go wrong, whether that be a fight between to drunk men or the cops being called for disturbance of peace, there, something went wrong. But, you have a positive outcome because you enjoyed the loud music and a few drinks with friends. You can have both outcomes depending on the situation, or from the way I view it, you can have both outcomes for ANY situation. It just might take longer for the other outcome to show up.

        That’s what I think. And again, sorry for the delayed answer.

        Cheers.

        1. Hi Emmy,

          No worries on taking some time to reply. It’s always good to peruse your thoughts whenever they come.

          You are well ahead of your time, I must say. Wise beyond your years and moving at a really good pace.

          You wrote, “There can be a negative or positive part to every situation.”

          I agree. I regard your statement as axiomatic. In fact, your thoughts may have just inspired a forthcoming post on this very topic.

          Stay tuned!

          Cheers,

          TK

          1. Thank you T.K. for thinking I’m wise, that is a compliment I have not recieved in a long time. I’m glad to hear that my thoughts have inspired you to write a forthcoming and I’m very excited to read it!

            Cheers

            Emmy

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