Why do I have to be the one who takes responsibility for the problem? Why can’t the other person be required to make adjustments?
Why do I have to always be the bigger person? Why can’t I be the one who gets to be a jerk?
I’ll answer those questions if you can answer a few of mine:
Why would you want to place your happiness in someone else’s hands? What happens when people forget (or simply refuse) to make the kinds of adjustments you want them to make?
When people behave in ways that are displeasing to you, what happens then? Do you have to be unhappy until they apologize, grow up, or have a life altering epiphany?
Is this your idea of what a happy life looks like?
What is the alternative to taking responsibility for your life?
If you were capable of successfully creating the results you want by making adjustments in your behavior, what would constitute a good reason for not making those adjustments?
Just as a point of clarification, my questions have nothing to do with what people should do. The issue is what people actually do and how you’re going to respond to it.
I look forward to hearing your answers.