A person’s behavior, however apparently irrational, is the most logical, sane, and sensible course of action given their internal representations of the world.
People don’t contradict themselves (even the ones who do the opposite of what they say). They only contradict our attempts to understand them.
“You aren’t making any sense” is usually just an ineffective way of saying “I don’t get where you’re coming from.”
This distinction is not merely a conceptual one. It has significant emotional and creative implications.
The belief that a person is contradicting themselves is usually accompanied by a spiteful or dismissive attitude. The creative intelligence necessary to resolve conflicts is rarely active when such a belief is present.
The belief that people ultimately make sense leads not only to an increased ability to be patient and tolerant in one’s dealings with “difficult” people, but it also makes the discovery of practical solutions and compromises infinitely more likely.
That’s today’s two sense 😉