Whenever you place your trust in another person’s judgement, you are implicitly affirming the confidence you have in your own judgement. To say “I trust you” is shorthand for “I trust my own judgement enough to recognize you as a person who’s worthy of my trust.”
Even when you allow others to do your thinking for you, you’re making the assumption that your own thinking is clear enough and coherent enough to make reliable decisions about who should do your thinking for you.
“Well, this doesn’t apply to me”, you may say. “I’m terrible at making decisions, so I allow my spouse, financial adviser, pastor, and lawyer, to sort all those things out for me.”
Even then, you are placing faith in your ability to properly discern those particular individuals, as opposed to the millions of others you could have trusted, as being the ones who are qualified to guide you.
You are always at the helm, even when you place someone else at the helm. There is no such thing as putting your life in someone else’s hands, because every decision you make begins with your own judgement.
Now, does that mean it’s your fault if you’ve been taken advantage of? Absolutely not!
As the song says, “Everybody plays the fool. There’s no exception to the rule.”
We’ve all placed our trust in the hands of people who let us down or, even worse, created a lifetime of suffering for us.
The lesson to be learned is this:
Never give your power away. Be open-minded to what others have to say, but always go with what resonates internally. Allow people to help you, but make sure you’re the one who’s managing the process. If something doesn’t feel right for you, go with your gut. Don’t allow any external form of guidance to take precedence over your own inner wisdom. You know what’s best for you. Steer your own ship. You’re already doing it anyway.
That’s today’s two cents.