You don’t get to decide what’s offensive to someone else.
If someone feels like they’re being insulted, attacked, or embarrassed, then that’s how they feel.
You do get to decide if you’re going to care about how their feelings affect their relationship with you.
In case you decide to care, here’s today’s two cents:
You’re far more likely to deal effectively with a wounded ego or a broken heart by listening respectfully and making creative adjustments than by trying to convince the other party that their sensitivities are flawed.
If the goal is to make it right, then, by all means, don’t make them wrong.