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The truth is never negative!

Truth is what it is independently of how we feel about it.

Our perception of truth may be negative, our response to truth may be negative, but truth in and of itself shows no partiality towards our categories of judgement.

If I cry when I hear the truth, that doesn’t mean truth is sad. It means I am saddened by my own perceived implications of the truth. If I laugh at the facts, that doesn’t make truth funny. It means I am making connections between facts in ways that are humorous to me.

Here’s today’s two cents:

Telling yourself the truth does NOT need to be a discouraging exercise.

If confronting the truth feels like you’re being whacked upside the head with a billy club, it may be because you’re beating yourself up unnecessarily, you’re communicating the truth to yourself in an unhealthy way, or you’re predominantly focusing on those parts of the truth that are most challenging to you.

People don’t feel beaten up and broken down because of the truth they tell themselves. They feel beaten up and broken down because of the other truths they omit and overlook.

If your encounters with truth are failing to increase your sense of personal freedom, the solution is not less truth but more truth.

Optimism isn’t about denying the truth nor is it the art of pretending that all truths are about cotton candy and Christmas music.

Optimism is about letting go of the fear-based assumption that the truth is something we need to run from.

More importantly, it’s about abandoning  the pitiful notion that we are fragile and flimsy beings who can’t handle the experience of having our knowledge upgraded and our paradigms redefined.

I say, “to hell with both of those ideas!”

We CAN handle the truth and the truth can handle us

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  1. Reblogged this on LifeRevelation and commented:
    Once again, Mr. Coleman hits the nail succinctly on the head…if for another reason you should read this reblog because of this line…”People don’t feel beaten up and broken down because of the truth they tell themselves. They feel beaten up and broken down because of the other truths they omit and overlook.”…now folks to that is TRUTH…be encouraged…and thank you Mr. Coleman.

  2. Hmmmm Funnily enough I wrote about the ‘Harsh Truth’ today (I haven’t posted it yet, still some editing to do). But my posts speaks of those who use the truth as an excuse to be critical of others, and how letting go of the need to focus on the flaws in others, or stopping trying to ‘help’ change them, can lead to a happier life. In my experience being critical of others, even if it is with the truth, can be extremely negative. Seeing as I agree with your points in your post, does my idea clash with your theory, that the truth can never be negative? I appreciate your feedback. Blessings to you!

    1. Our ideas don’t clash at all. They are perfectly compatible in this regard. Those critical people and their harsh presentations are one of the main reasons people believe in the myth that Truth is sometimes harsh. To my mind, the truth is never harsh. People who tell the truth without tact, timing, and taste are harsh. And sometimes we allow those people to convince us that we should be harsh on ourselves. Your thoughts? Blessings to you too!

      1. Some excellent points. I agree completely. The truth can set us free yet when used inappropriately causes destruction and more damage than the truth itself. For instance when I ask for the truth about myself from a trusted friend I am able to hear it and take it on board without negativity. But when I am already feeling low about myself and I receive the same truth as a hurtful criticism at those times it causes me extreme hurt and I feel strongly to either defend myself or crumble in a heap. Thank you for your reply it has given me some good ideas to edit into my post. 🙂 Cheers to you T.K!

  3. Found your blog today by way of LIfeRevelation, and have been musing similar concepts for the last couple of days. Here’s one I’m stuck on that maybe you’ve already answered for yourself: If the truth is independent of us and our perceptions of it are what create the emotion, how do we get out of our own way and accept it? I know that when I hear a truth that feels hurtful, I seem to get lost in the negative (e.g. “I can’t believe he slept with someone else when we were first dating”) and can’t make my peace with the arguably more positive aspects of the truth (e.g. “That was a long time ago and since then he fell in love with me and wants only me.”). I see an awful lot of people do the same thing, and I can dish out the advice — let go of it, it was long time ago, etc. — but I still have a hard time living it in my own life. Any thoughts?

    1. Great question! My two cents?

      I believe that our so-called negative emotions, and the thoughts which evoke them, are invitations to explore unconscious, unacknowledged, or unexpressed needs. I’m not a big fan at all of attempting to downplay negative feelings nor do I encourage the practice of forcing yourself to feel better. I believe that depth of understanding rather than willpower is a far more effective way to release negative emotion. If you have a difficult time releasing a negative thought, maybe you should allow yourself to sit with it more deeply without judging anything that comes up. Right now it sounds like you may be trying to make yourself forget about what happened and your subconscious doesn’t want to let it go. Maybe there is a reason for that. Maybe it has something to say to you. In our efforts to get pass our negative feelings as quickly as possible, we sometimes overlook the fact that our emotional guidance system might be pointing us to a truth about ourselves that we need to own. Am I making sense here? Feel to free to honestly say so if I am not. i’m willing to dialogue about this.

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