I’ve had people say to me, “T.K., I can appreciate your optimism, but let’s face it…some people are just idiots.”
Now, I don’t think anybody is an idiot, but I also don’t think it’s possible to convince people of that. The belief in idiocy is pretty etched in the mass consciousness at this point, so I won’t take the resistant path by challenging it.
So, some people are just idiots! Let’s run with that as our premise.
Here’s today’s two cents:
The moment your happiness becomes dependent on “idiots” not acting like “idiots”, then all you can really do is hope you get lucky enough to never run into anybody that you think is an “idiot.”
That’s pretty much it! Those are your options right there!
That’s a tough way to live!
There’s nothing wrong with that approach. After all, optimism is not a religion that you’re evil for failing to practice. You have the right to blame as many people as you’d like for as much as you’d like and, as far as I’m concerned, you and I would still be equals. So, this has nothing to do with being right or wrong. You’re probably still smarter than me, better looking than me, and richer than me EVEN IF you spend tons of energy finger-pointing and fault-finding.
While your beliefs are your prerogative, it’s important to remember that every idea isn’t going to take you to the same place.
Some ideas will produce results you don’t like. Other ideas will produce results you do like.
If your goal is to produce results that you like, it behooves you to update your ideas when they fail to deliver.
If “some people are just idiots” is the explanation for your frustration, then the “idiots” get to be in control of your life because that’s the price you have to pay for the luxury of being able to blame them.
This isn’t something I think is fair, by the way. I don’t believe this is how the universe OUGHT to be.
HOWEVER, there’s just no way to feel free or secure (apart from getting lucky) if your quality of life hinges on the elimination or absence of those who behave inconsistently with your personal standards for intelligence and integrity.
I don’t know about you, but I’m not a fan of playing the emotional lotto or rolling the dice with my feelings.
Nothing feels more powerless, stressful, and nerve-wrecking to me than waking up in the morning and vaguely hoping that it’s going to be a good day. Wait a minute…you mean it’s not up to me???
I’d rather be in the driver’s seat in my own life, but I can’t be in the driver’s seat if someone’s idiocy has the power to ruin my day.
I need more options than that.
I need a way to maintain my positive vibration on those days when the idiots just wont quit.
I need a way to access my internal happy place on those days when I can’t just run and tell some authority figure to make the idiots go away.
I need a way to stay emotionally available for my family on those days when the idiots don’t respond to my diplomatic efforts to get them to stop acting idiotically.
I need a way to take charge of my state on the days when the idiots have the resources, connections, and power to get away with whatever they want.
“Yeah, well I know how to deal with idiots. I can just punch them in the face or give them a piece of my mind.”
What’s your plan for that one day when you run into an idiot who’s bigger, stronger, and louder than you?
What’s your plan for that one day when you can’t physically remove yourself from the idiot’s presence?
Do you have any options for those days?
It’s called “getting inside of my own head before anyone else does.”
Is my way better than yours? Absolutely not!
But if your way isn’t making you happy on an everyday basis and being happy on an everyday basis is something you want, I suggests you take the time to make your mind “idiot proof.”
If I may, I’d like to end with a poem:I’m sorry to say, “the idiots are here to stay.” So if you want to have a good day, you’d better find an alternative to making them play your way.
At least that’s the way I see it.