One of the biggest mistakes we make in our efforts to create personal happiness is attempting to be positive about the things we dislike.
“My boss hates me, but I’m trying to be positive about it”, “My lover cheated on me, but I’m trying to be positive about it”, or “I lost all of my money in a bad investment, but I’m trying to be positive about it.”
These kinds of statements typically express the sentiments of one who is trying, usually in vain, to make themselves feel good about something that doesn’t actually feel good to them.
The futility of such a process is precisely what has caused many people to conclude that they just don’t have what it takes to be a positive person.
Here’s today’s two cents:
Don’t be positive about the wrong things. Be positive about the right things.
Instead of trying to be positive about your tragedies, be positive about your ability get through them.
Instead of trying to be positive about what you hate, be positive about your ability to either cope with it or to transform it into something that you love.
If you feel like someone or something is screwing you over, don’t try to make yourself positive about THAT. If something stinks, be real about how much it stinks and then be positive about your capacity to deal with that.
Like what you like and make the most out of your ability create more of what you like.
Dislike what you dislike, don’t let what you dislike become too much of a distraction from what you like and, whenever possible, use what you dislike as motivation to create a new reality.