Repressing so-called negative emotions is no less dangerous than expressing them in destructive ways.
Self-control is not synonymous with ‘holding it in.’
Self-control is the art of being an observer and a participant, rather than an unconscious reactor, in the arena of processing and expressing our various moods.
Every feeling is a potential teacher, friend, and ally.
The healthy response to a ‘bad’ feeling is not pushing it away or pretending that it’s unreal.
The healthy response is to be present with our emotions, whatever they may be, with an attitude of non-judgmental self-love.
From that state of awareness, we can discern how to embrace all emotion as forms of creative energy that can be embodied in ways that do more good than harm.
At least that’s the way i see it.