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What if it IS their fault?

What if everything you’re unhappy about IS someone else’s fault?

Here’s the “harsh” truth about that assumption:

IF your unhappiness is someone else’s fault, the culpable party is not capable of living your unhappiness for you.

You can go to bed angry at the world, but when you wake up in the morning, you’ll still be you and the unhappiness you blame others for will be right there to greet you.

Which way would you rather live…

1) Resenting other people over the idea of what your life should have been?

or

2) Doing the best you can to get the most out of the hand you’ve been dealt?

“T.K., are you telling me I don’t have the right to be angry at others for what they’ve done?”

Absolutely not! I’m not here to make you feel bad for feeling bad.

I think you have the right to feel however you feel.

I just don’t want you to be duped, as so many well-meaning and sincere people are, into believing that you can hate your way into a life you love.

So, here’s today’s two cents:

As the Good Book says, “All things are permissible, but not all thing are profitable.”

You have the freedom to do whatever you choose, but you also have the power to choose what is truly best for you.

I hope you choose to go beyond what is permissible.

I hope you pursue the profitable.

Your thoughts?

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  1. Hi T.K,
    I  believe This is all there is my friend.. Now moment…
    And like all other experiences in life I am thankful for my life scenario as it is right now.. Whatever happens in life is justice and happens for the best.. 

    So I always remain humbly  open to the opportunities that life has to offer..

    Thanks, 
     

      

  2. “What if everything you’re unhappy about IS someone else’s fault?”

    “IF your unhappiness is someone else’s fault, the culpable party is not capable of living your unhappiness for you.”

    Believe that we take responsiblity for our lives, intellectually, emotionally, psychologically to determine our reactions and our state of being. No one else has to control how we feel, unless we let them. When we say “You made me angry, sad, etc., we give away power. When we say
    I am angry, sad, etc., then we can choose how we’re going to deal with that emotional state.
    We’re human, so others can affect us. But we can choose to disempower that affect. Takes
    practice. Also helps to ask in these situations: “Who owns the problem?”

    Saw an amusing comment recently: “You’re in my head and living there rent free.”

    How does someone like Nelson Mandela come out of a wrongful 30 year prison sentence, forgive his oppressors and go on to help his country?

    “You have the freedom to do whatever you choose, but you also have the power to choose what is truly best for you.”

    Guess it all depends on how we want to live our day-to-day lives. Free to choose one’s inner
    well-being and “what is truly best for you.”

    Well said.

    Regards,

    Alana

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