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It always works to focus on what works

When seeking to resolve conflicts with others, try shifting the conversation away from a right/wrong context towards an effective/ineffective context.

Either your way of interacting with each other is working or it’s not.

When something isn’t working, it’s much easier to find a win-win solution when neither party is required to be wrong.

You don’t need other people to agree with you about how much of an idiot you think they are. And even if you do, it’s highly unlikely that others are going to see themselves as idiots just to satisfy your need to be right.

Differences are differences. You can resist the fact that they exist, you can demand apologies for them, or you can use that same energy to respectfully and creatively figure out ways to harmoniously coexist.

Everyone needs the cooperation of others.

Forget who’s wrong and focus on what works.

Because it’s wrong to focus on who’s wrong? Not at all!

Because this is the one right way to do things? Absolutely not!

Because it always works to focus on what works.

At least that’s the way I see it.


T.K. Coleman

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