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A lesson from surgery

Two days ago I had a major surgery.

I was in so much pain after leaving the hospital that, even after some pretty strong medication, I could barely move a muscle without yelping like a pregnant cat. The pain and physical immobility was further complicated by a rising fever.

My wife and I were so concerned that we rushed to the emergency room in search of answers and relief.

After a long night of waiting, here’s what we received: a set of intelligently and compassionately conveyed explanations for why my symptoms, however uncomfortable, were to be expected given the nature of my operation.

That was it.

No new medications. No shortcuts through the pain. Just the knowledge that my particular way of not being okay was, in fact, okay.

Miraculously, that bit of knowledge–that I wasn’t crazy for being hurt and afraid, brought a quality of relief no pill could mediate.

Today, I’d like to share that relief with you.

If you are a human being, I don’t need to know anything else about you in order to know that discomfort and contrast is a part of your life.

For what it’s worth, here’s today’s two cents:

Whatever it is you’re going through, there’s nothing wrong with you for experiencing pain.

If at all possible, please surround yourself with people who won’t let you forget that.


T.K. Coleman

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  1. sending love and well-wishes for a speedy recovery!

    i tried to leave a comment on your post, but it kept saying i’m not logged in, but i am. so hope you get this 🙂


  2. Thanks, T.K. This is soooooo important, “There’s nothing wrong with you for experiencing pain”. That is something I have needed to hear my whole life!
    I hope you are healing well, the fever is gone (glad to hear it was just a fever, not a complication) and the pain is abating. HUGS 🙂

  3. Hi T.K.

    Trust you are on the mend considerably now. Not sure how long your recuperation time is but
    hope each day is better and better!

    Surprized (and impressed) that you’re still writing. 🙂

    Fortunately once pain passes, the memory of it starts to ebb into forgetfulness. Yes “discomfort and contrast is part of life” and reminds us to relish the golden happier times we can all enjoy.



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