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A quick and easy way to eliminate quarrelling

It is nearly impossible to get into a heated argument with your loved ones if, as a general rule of thumb, you commit to ALWAYS speaking to the other party as if they have the same amount of intelligence and integrity as you.

Most quarrels have less to do with the actual differences in our opinions, and more to do with our tendency to interpret those differences as evidence that others are not as ethical, reasonable, or loving as we are.

Self-righteousness, not disagreement, is the greater enemy of conflict resolution.

The solution lies in a simple insight Ram Dass taught his students: “we can be right without being righteous about it.”

We can perceive what we perceive without placing ourselves on a pedestalĀ for having the particular vantage point we have.

We can discuss our issues without questioning, mocking, or attacking the sensibility, sensitivity, and sincerity of the ones with whom we are in conflict.

Cooperation and compromise can be surprisingly easy to obtain when we drop the habit of engaging those who see things differently as if we’re smarter, superior, or saintlier.

At least that’s the way I see it.


T.K. Coleman

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