A lesser kind of kindness is when we’re “nice” right now, but angry and mean later on because of the resentment we feel about how nice we had to be earlier.
It’s a form of self-inflicted martyrdom.
“I’ll pretend to be okay with this for the moment because I don’t feel like getting into a fight. However, the next time I get worked up over something, I’m going to righteously hold my sacrifices over their head and make them feel guilty for it.”
When Jesus said, “love your neighbor as thy self”, I do not believe he was referring to this type of kindness.
At least that’s the way I see it.