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Feelings are friends, not foes

Feelings are like friends: All of them are good, as long as we understand how to properly engage them.

Strictly speaking, there are no negative emotions (although I understand and accept the informal use of this description) because none of our feelings are evil or intrinsically harmful.

Certain emotional sensations may be unpleasant or uncomfortable, but that’s not necessarily bad.

Like friends, all feelings play a different role and each of them have their own unique attributes.

Different friends are helpful and useful for different things.

Some friends are better at comforting us, others are better at challenging us. We need both kinds.

It’s only when we demand our friends to be someone other than who they are that we experience them as enemies.

Ditto with feelings.

It’s only when we demand them to be something other than what they are that we experience them as enemies.

When our feelings challenge us, the best thing we can do is welcome the challenge and embrace the changes they invite us to create.

Sometimes I feel bothered, but I’ve learned (and am continuing to learn) to not feel bothered about feeling bothered.

I’ve learned (and am continuing to learn) that I can allow the sensation of being bothered to usher me to that place within myself that needs to be healed, to be embraced, or simply reminded that it is truly loved.

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