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Deal with your bullshit before your bullshit deals with you (audio)

We all have our own unique forms of bullshit that are capable of making even the most universally applicable ideas seem utterly useless when it comes to us.

I wrote about this in my recent post The truth is true for everyone except you.

Now, I’m speaking it!

If you’d like to hear, I invite you to listen to the YouTube clip below.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

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  1. Excellent tie-in to your post “The truth is for everyone
    except you.”

    I too prefer the term bullshit to ‘resistance.’ I think
    it has more visceral impact. For a long time now I’ve
    thought this: others can’t bullshit you if you don’t
    bullshit yourself….including that inner voice.

    (I was going to shorten the bullshit word to BS, (for the
    sake of economy here) but thought NO, the full word
    you’re using is better.)

    And I REALLY agree wholeheartedly with your posited
    question of “HOW am I going to respond WHEN (not if)
    WHEN my bullshit speaks up?” Instead of “Can I change
    my life or can I do something remarkable?” I read a very
    good psychology book that strongly urged if you want to
    get something done, focus on the HOW not the I. The
    HOW starts to inform your HOW TO. The I starts the
    (bullshit) inner voice going. (The Psychology of Self-
    Esteem by Nathaniel Branden.)

    However the bullshit won’t say: “Hell no to my goals and
    dreams” in those blunt words at all. If it did perhaps we
    could pick it for the bullshit it is. Instead it will show you
    how to “fail with dignity” by providing you all kinds of valid
    sounding excuses. NOT revealing to you the siren call to
    abandon your goals and dreams.

    And Alex Haley’s wise words: “Either you deal with what is
    the reality, or you can be sure the reality is going to deal
    with you.”

    I’ve lived long enough to see the results of those people
    who allowed the bullshit to help them give up on their
    dreams and themselves….and their lives.

    “Deal with your bullshit before it deals with you.” Oh yes.

    1. Excellent tie-in to your post “The truth is for everyone
      except you.”

      Thanks Alana 🙂

      I too prefer the term bullshit to ‘resistance.’ I think
      it has more visceral impact. For a long time now I’ve
      thought this: others can’t bullshit you if you don’t
      bullshit yourself….including that inner voice.

      (I was going to shorten the bullshit word to BS, (for the
      sake of economy here) but thought NO, the full word
      you’re using is better.)

      Way to spell it out. Haha. I love it. One of the reasons I prefer this word is because it makes it a lot harder to Bullshit myself when I call it by that name.

      And I REALLY agree wholeheartedly with your posited
      question of “HOW am I going to respond WHEN (not if)
      WHEN my bullshit speaks up?” Instead of “Can I change
      my life or can I do something remarkable?” I read a very
      good psychology book that strongly urged if you want to
      get something done, focus on the HOW not the I. The
      HOW starts to inform your HOW TO. The I starts the
      (bullshit) inner voice going. (The Psychology of Self-
      Esteem by Nathaniel Branden.)

      Well said. That sounds like a good book.

      However the bullshit won’t say: “Hell no to my goals and
      dreams” in those blunt words at all. If it did perhaps we
      could pick it for the bullshit it is. Instead it will show you
      how to “fail with dignity” by providing you all kinds of valid
      sounding excuses. NOT revealing to you the siren call to
      abandon your goals and dreams.

      This is also true. I suppose one could say that bullshit wouldn’t be bullshit if it didn’t speak in the way that was most appealing to its audience.

      I’ve lived long enough to see the results of those people
      who allowed the bullshit to help them give up on their
      dreams and themselves….and their lives.

      I would be interested in hearing more about that. I love success stories but I also think it’s helpful to hear stories of regret and remorse from time to time as well.

      1. Yes, T.K. I have friends and some family who
        have managed to keep the bullshit level down
        to a minimum. And we’ve talked about this
        from time to time.

        The two people that come to mind that are
        my ex-partner and a close relative. Let’s call
        them R and J for short.

        It would seem that R and J come from very
        different backgrounds. R is a CA and J is a
        tradesman. They have never met one another.
        R has read many of the same business books
        I have and wanted to be successful. J is afraid
        of success but masks it as having to give up
        your soul to be successful. He has tried to
        run several different business on and off,
        none successfully. Each sputtered to a halt.

        Both had alcoholic fathers and were told two of
        the same messages by their fathers, as young
        boys: That they would never amount to anything
        and that they were weak. They have absorbed and
        internalized both. If such messages go unchecked,
        they set off depth charges and begin to operate in
        the present without permission. See a great deal
        of fear in them. Both are in their early 60s

        They are smart men, but the bullshit operates at
        a fine-tuned level. R is in jeopardy as he really
        bullshits himself. He has multiple tax offices in
        another city but he won’t take charge. So his
        business is suffering. He is a man split between
        his words and actions. He used to love the work.
        Now he looks defeated. He first used the phrase
        not to learn to “fail with dignity” from a book on
        business he read some years ago. All these books
        in him and the words don’t take root. I really like
        this guy, but people are a mystery to him as he
        is to himself, and he won’t pull himself out.

        As a result he has lost his best employees and
        procrastinates significantly.

        Over the previous 10 years I thought that often of
        him—if he’d just stop bullshitting himself…

        J has truly given up. Cut off his family and prefers
        to be alone. Is bitter and full of anger now.

        In a profound way, neither has matured into a
        grown man.

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