“Dance, when you’re broken open. Dance, if you’ve torn the bandage off. Dance in the middle of the fighting. Dance in your blood. Dance when you’re perfectly free.” -Rumi
Emotions are like music.
Every feeling is its own genre.
To say that one feeling is objectively better than another would be like saying Classical is better than Jazz or Blues is better than Country.
But feelings are not a matter of right and wrong. They simply (or not so simply) are what they are.
Coping with the complexity of our feelings is a form of psychological choreography.
Just as there are moves belonging to ballet that do not belong to salsa, each mood requires its own unique style of reactions and responses.
We all must strive to find our own ways, however quirky and unsexy those efforts may be, of moving to the unorthodox rhythms of anger, sadness, jealousy, or any other “style” of emotion that tends to “trip us up” or “throw us off.”
The problem with feeling is not that our moods fluctuate nor that our emotions seem to fail us. The greater dilemma is that most of have only learned how to dance to one type of song.