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The Way of Commitment

Before getting married, I had no idea how I would come up with the money for a wedding.

I spent two years being engaged while I passively waited for a plan to reveal itself to me. My magical wedding blueprint never showed up. And even though I imagined it would get easier with time, it only become more difficult.

Each new day brought a fresh set of questions and creative challenges I hadn’t previously considered. Eventually I just decided to have a wedding. I set a date and announced it to everyone I knew. Then it happened. My decisiveness towards the result placed me in an entirely different world of perception. I saw all sorts of possibilities that were previously invisible to me. For two years I WANTED to get married, but it never actually happened until I DECIDED to get married.

Here’s today’s two cents:

Answers don’t follow questions, they follow actions.

Commitment is not just a psychological state, it’s an epistemic framework. The person who makes up his mind to achieve a specific result is capable of knowing things that are inaccessible to the person who makes certainty a prerequisite for action.

The best way to figure out how to do something is to decide that you’re going to do it. Methods are born out of decisions, not the other way around.

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  1. This is so true! Congrats on the nuptials, and having done the exact same thing for my own wedding, I know precisely what you mean. But it is profound and true in all aspects of our lives that once you commit, only then do things happen. And I love your blog, BTW. Read it every day.

    1. Thank you for the congrats and the kind words, Laura. Congratulations to you too. I hope you’re loving the married life. It really is amazing to see how much we can accomplish when we commit to the result. This is one of those inights I have to remind myself of often. And the reminder always pays off. Cheers!

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