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Put a question mark after your frustrations

Every frustration can be expressed in the form of a solution-oriented question:

“I hate my job” can be expressed as “How can I create a fulfilling career?” or “How can I find ways to reduce stress in my working environment?”

“I never have enough money” can be expressed as “How can I get more mileage out of the resources I have?” or “How can I increase my earning potential?” or “How can I get better at saving, investing, and spending the money I have?” or “How can I do more things without money?”

“People never respect me” can be expressed as “How can I get better at commanding people’s attention?” or “How can I learn to establish healthier boundaries in my relationships?” or “What can I learn about myself from the way people respond to me?” or “How can I get better at surrounding myself with people who appreciate me for the person I am?”

“I hate myself” can be expressed as “How can I learn to love myself?” or “What do other people do when they feel like they hate themselves?”

Once a frustration has been translated into a question, it becomes possible to track down resources that can provide practical life-changing insights.

When you express frustration, you get sympathy.

When you ask questions, you get answers.

There’s a difference.

It’s very difficult to remain down for long once you master the process of asking clear questions.

This process, however, isn’t easy. Learning to articulate emotional experiences in this way is a developed skill that only comes with consistent practice. It takes patience, hard work, and an open-mind. But you’re worth all that anyway, right?

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    1. Indeed. And it’s amazing, in an almost magical way, to see how effectively we can attract answers and insights into our experience when we ask the right questions. Happy Holidays, Susan.

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