Every frustration can be expressed in the form of a solution-oriented question:
“I hate my job” can be expressed as “How can I create a fulfilling career?” or “How can I find ways to reduce stress in my working environment?”
“I never have enough money” can be expressed as “How can I get more mileage out of the resources I have?” or “How can I increase my earning potential?” or “How can I get better at saving, investing, and spending the money I have?” or “How can I do more things without money?”
“People never respect me” can be expressed as “How can I get better at commanding people’s attention?” or “How can I learn to establish healthier boundaries in my relationships?” or “What can I learn about myself from the way people respond to me?” or “How can I get better at surrounding myself with people who appreciate me for the person I am?”
“I hate myself” can be expressed as “How can I learn to love myself?” or “What do other people do when they feel like they hate themselves?”
Once a frustration has been translated into a question, it becomes possible to track down resources that can provide practical life-changing insights.
When you express frustration, you get sympathy.
When you ask questions, you get answers.
There’s a difference.
It’s very difficult to remain down for long once you master the process of asking clear questions.
This process, however, isn’t easy. Learning to articulate emotional experiences in this way is a developed skill that only comes with consistent practice. It takes patience, hard work, and an open-mind. But you’re worth all that anyway, right?