“We are our choices.” -Jean-Paul Sartre
“HOW are you doing?”
“WHAT are you doing?”
Two different questions. Two different focal points.
“How are you doing?” places the emphasis on our feelings and opinions about what’s happening to us. It’s a description of personal experience offered from the vantage point of being an effect.
“What are you doing?” places the emphasis on our practical decisions. It’s a description of personal experience offered from the vantage point of being a cause.
It’s the difference between “What kind of day are you having?” and “What kind of day are you choosing?”
I rarely ask or answer the first question. Because, even if the answer to it is positive, I’m only interested in what’s being done with that information. Having a good day means nothing if we don’t make the decision to enjoy it, appreciate it, and take advantage of it. And having a bad day isn’t the end of the world if we make up our minds to form healthy responses to it.
In the end, there are no good days or bad days. There are only healthy choices and unhealthy choices. And we get to decide what those choices are.