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Are You Mature Enough To Handle A Compliment?

It’s often said that the mark of maturity is the ability to take criticism.

I’d also contend that it’s no less of a sign of depth to demonstrate the ability to take a compliment.

A message I penned a couple of years ago bears repeating:

When someone offers you a compliment, and you respond by explaining away your positive attributes in terms of how your mother raised you, what city you’re from, or how many advantages you’ve had, it doesn’t change the fact that your goodness is still worthy of being appreciated. The ability to explain the origins of a virtue does not make that virtue any less real or praiseworthy. So when someone applauds you for demonstrating good character, don’t treat them like they’re being irrational or unethical. When people compliment you, it’s not because they’re under the illusion that you’re a perfect, self-sufficient being that’s never had any help. It’s simply a kind way of saying ‘I appreciate you’ or ‘I admire you.’ It’s already a rare experience for most of us to feel celebrated. So when it happens, why not allow it? Ease up on the scientific explanations for why you refuse to be impressed with yourself and just allow the other person to have their moment of gratitude.

We’re well aware of your flaws and imperfections. Please allow us to have at least one moment to talk about your beauty.

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