The process of building a healthy sense of self-esteem isn’t for the weak-minded.
There’s a great deal of responsibility that comes with acknowledging and accepting positive truths about yourself. Contrary to the popular misconception that it always feels good to be told that you have value, the notion that you are *not* a worthless low life can be a great burden. Once you know that you have something to offer, you have to face the responsibility of sharing it with others. In other words, sitting around in a state of apathy is no longer an option.
When you’re busy wallowing in self-pity, there isn’t much to do besides wait for the world to appease you. Self-respect, on the other hand, summons you to action. It compels you to engage the world and help others see their own light. You can feel bad about your life all by yourself, but you don’t get to keep your sense of self-love and self-respect without being committed to investing in others.
Some people ask me “do you ever talk about the ugly truths?” My answer: I do. But unfortunately, people are too quick to contrast the so-called positive truths with the ugly ones. Sometimes the ugliest truth is the one that reminds you of your own beauty. Because once you know how beautiful you truly are, you have no more excuses for selling yourself short and giving up on your chances to make a difference.
Self-esteem and service go hand in hand. As soon as you wake up to how awesome you are, you have to get off your butt and get back to the ugly work of bringing healing and positive change to the world.