We get writer’s block, but we rarely get talker’s block.
Why is that?
It’s largely because we recognize that conversation is a tool. We don’t usually speak for the sake of speaking. We usually speak for the sake of making meaningful connections or creating practical results.
If I need to find the bathroom in a restaurant, I walk over to a server and ask “Where is your restroom?” I don’t think twice about using the perfect choice of words. I don’t fret over making sure my sentences are pretty. I’m too focused on finding the bathroom. My words are just a tool to help me realize that goal. That’s how communication works when you have something to say. When you have something to say, you don’t get talker’s block.
Writing should be the same way, but we make it more complicated. We lose sight of the fact that writing, just like talking, is a tool for communicating. So instead of saying what we want to say, we make the mistake of trying to be writers. And that’s when we get stuck. That’s when we psyche ourselves out. Writer’s block, more often than not, is the symptom of a more fundamental problem: losing sight of our voice, our story, and our message because we’re too busy trying to make sure we live up to a standard that has nothing to do with the results we want to create.
Everyone has a story or a message or a conviction or an idea that they just can’t keep quiet about. Find out what that is for you, and focus on that. If you keep sharing what fires you up, you’ll gradually get better and better at finding more effective ways to say it.
If you want to be a writer, forget about being a writer for one second and just say what you need to say.