When you speak the truth, what’s the point?
I don’t mean “What’s the point you’re trying to make?” I mean “What’s the point of making your point?” What are you looking to achieve when you proclaim your knowledge to another human being?
Are you making your point as a strategy for building your personal brand?
Are you making your point to put on a performance for the people who are watching?
Are you making your point to ruffle people’s feathers and get a reaction out of them?
Are you making your point as a way of blowing off some steam and releasing the pent up frustrations you have with people who believe erroneous things?
Are you making your point in order to make the other party feel small or stupid?
Are you making your point to shame your audience?
Are you making your point because you believe people will change their beliefs and behaviors in response to your arguments?
Are you making your point because you care about the health and wellness of the person you’re talking to?
Are you making your point in order to help your audience live more freely?
Are you making your point for the sake of stimulating curiosity about important issues?
There’s far more to making points than being confident in the point you’re making.
There are lots of reasons to make a point. Each of those reasons leads to different kinds of results.
Ultimately, you have to be the one who decides why you choose to make the points you make. Whatever your reasons are, I challenge you to be brutally honest with yourself about your answer to the following questions: Is it working for you? When you make your points, are you actually achieving the results you set out to achieve?
Don’t settle for just making points.
Strive to make sure your conversations as a whole are pointed in the direction of a constructive goal.