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Advice isn’t All or Nothing; It’s Sometimes and Maybe

When people give you advice based on what worked for them (or someone else) in the past, either it’s useful to you or it’s not.

If it’s useful, use it. There’s no need to treat it like a religion or a law of physics that everyone else needs to believe in.

If it’s not useful to you, toss it out and move on to something that actually works for you. There’s no need to waste your own time and energy demonizing a strategy that isn’t right for you.

The important thing is to make sure you don’t get so caught up in debating things like “this technique is amazing and everyone should use it” and “this technique is stupid and no one should use it”, that you forget to move forward with an understanding of this one simple truth:

“No piece of advice works for everyone and every piece of advice works for someone.”

The Real Reason You Should Follow Your Dreams, Why We Should Stop Shaming Drop-Outs, & Why Creativity Requires Work (My Appearance on The Ground Up Show)

Here are some of the assertions I espouse on my recent appearance on The Ground Up Show:

College isn’t for everyone.

You don’t need to become the next Steve Jobs in order to justify your decision to opt-out of school.

If we really mean it when we tell young people to be true to themselves, to create their own path, and to follow their passion even if it doesn’t make them rich, then we need to stop abandoning this advice when we talk to young people who don’t want traditional schooling. 

Here’s a teaser video clip for the above topic:

How about some more assertions? Here you go:

Being a creative person isn’t the same thing as doing actual creative work.

Creativity isn’t just a psychological phenomenon. It’s a practical process. And if you’re not putting your creative ideas to practical use, then it doesn’t really mean anything to call yourself creative. 

I was on a TV Show called “Are You Smarter than a 5th Grader.” I got the first question wrong. It was an easy question too. It was an embarrassing error. Someone post a clip of it on YouTube and the comments were vicious, nasty, and mean. And none of that matters because I won something, tangible and intangible, that was worth the cost of temporary humiliation.

Here’s a teaser video clip for the above topic:

To find out more about my rewards from the 5th grader show and my thoughts on education, dropping out of school, goal-setting, dreams, and personal development, check out Episode 073: Dreams Don’t Come True, Decisions Do. The full clip is below.

A Thing About Advice

Advice is not a prescription for your future. It’s a description of someone else’s past.

Your job is to evaluate or experiment with that description at a level that you can handle in order to see if it contains anything that might be useful to you.

To make a god out of that which is useful or a devil out of that which is useless is to miss the point of advice altogether.

The Difference That Makes The Difference

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There’s a big difference between fighting for your dreams and fighting with others about your right to fight for your dreams.

The former is intoxicating. The latter is just toxic.

Nothing will deter you from progress quite like the need to prove to others that you deserve to seek progress.

Every second that you spend justifying yourself is a second that could be spent bettering yourself.

You can make a much greater impact by hitting the gym or hitting the books than you can by hammering the doubters and naysayers in your life with long-winded arguments.

Losing an opportunity to develop your potential is a lot more costly than losing an opportunity to debate your point.

Instead of trying to force people into respecting your journey, invest that time and energy into mastering your craft.

No one ever said that living a purposeful life would be the same thing as making sense to everyone you know.

If It Works for the Opt-ins, It Works for the Opt-outs

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People be like:

1. Be true to yourself.*

2. If you’re happy with what you do and you’re fine with the amount of money you make, don’t waste time comparing yourself to people who have fancier titles and a higher income than you.**

*Make sure your “self” is someone who goes to college.

**If you don’t have a degree, then you should be comparing your earnings with people of a similar age who do have degrees. If you make more than them, that means you’re lucky. If you make less than them, that means you probably should have gone to college.

Don’t be like those people.

If you’re going to be an advocate of philosophies like “be true yourself” and “don’t compare yourself to others” and “as long as you’re happy with your life, don’t have any regrets,” just make sure you don’t arbitrarily move the goal post when you run into someone who meets all those conditions without being a participant in tradition schooling.

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