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Stay Ahead of the Frenzy

The frenzy state makes fools of us all.

If you want to be a good decision maker, problem solver, or generator of creative ideas, build your life on a foundation of rest, nourishment, & orderliness.

The mind is at its best when it works from a state of composure rather than reactivity.

A Small List of Things You Can Give Besides Money

Words of encouragement
Words of appreciation
Perspective
Empathy
“How-to” knowledge
A helping hand
Connections
Stories
Laughter
Company
Attention
Compassion
Good book recommendations
Good music recommendations
Good podcast recommendations
Recipes
Possessions you no longer need
Good conversation
Handwritten thank-you notes.
Sincere questions that give people the opportunity to talk about what interest them.
The gift of expressing and sharing your talents with the world.
The gift of your own personal development.

Don’t Apply for “A Job”

Don’t apply for “a job.” That’s too general.

Apply for a specific opportunity to create a specific kind of value for a specific company.

If you apply for something, that’s actually what you’re doing anyway. So you might as well adopt a mindset that’s congruent with the task.

Apply for jobs with the same practical wisdom you’d display when looking for a date.

Don’t let yourself sound like a desperate person who’s looking for anything under the sun. Make the company feel like you’re uniquely interested in them.

You wouldn’t go on a date and say “Oh, I’m just here because I have no friends and you were available. There was nothing about you that made me intrigued. I’m just trying to get to know ANYONE who’s willing to listen.”

You would say “When I met you the other day and you started talking about how you loved the Chicago Bulls and THEN you dropped that Eminem reference in the SAME sentence, I was like ‘I GOTTA get to know this person right here.'”

Make your pitch personal.

People like it when you’re interested in them in particular.

They like it less when you’re just putting out a bunch of feelers.

The same is true for companies.

Don’t be spammy. Be specific.

Your Future Is Not a Debate

Instead of pressuring yourself to discover and defend new dogmas, focus on exploring and experimenting with new mental models.

Self-improvement is an adventure, not a religion.

There’s no need to meet a belief-requirement, recite a creed, or pledge lifelong allegiance to a particular school of philosophy in order to better yourself.

Just choose to do more of what works for you and less of what doesn’t.

It’s that simple.

Don’t debate your future. Create your future.

Two Economic Tragedies

Two economic tragedies:

1. Refusing to acknowledge any forms of value that don’t make money.

(Ie. “Friendships and hobbies are a waste of time unless they advance your career.”)

2. Resenting markets for not rewarding all the things we value in terms of money.

(Ie. “I enjoy laughing, listening to music, and hanging out at the beach. It’s unfair that nobody wants to give me a job or pay me money for those things.”)

#1 = a failure to understand why money matters and how it relates to the pursuit of meaning.

#2 = a failure to understand how value-creation works and why people choose to pay for things at all.

The way out:

Understand your why.

Respect other people’s.

Figure out how to use the former to serve the latter.

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