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Good fortune is a matter of opinion

A good fortune cannot force you to feel happy in spite of yourself.

You can never make enough money, acquire enough knowledge, or procure enough connections to eliminate all the possible ways in which things can be negatively perceived.

No matter how good it gets, your mind will still have the ability to spoil the fun by conjuring unpleasant or ungrateful thoughts.

There is no circumstantial cure for this.

Good fortune can’t save you from the experience of worrying about your good fortune. Good fortune can’t liberate you from feeling guilty over how good you have it. Good fortune can’t stop you from being bitter that your fortune isn’t as good as it you’d like it to be. Good fortune can’t prevent you from looking at your good fortune as a curse.

Good fortune is ONLY as good as your ability to THINK about it in ways that allow you to enjoy it.

It is simply impossible, no matter how much the universe cooperates with you, to feel fortunate without thinking of yourself as a fortunate person.

A good fortune plus a sour attitude is the emotional equivalent of bad fortune

Optimism is not a mere consolation prize for those who never experience good fortune. Optimism is the very ability and willingness to recognize that there is such a thing as a fortune to feel good about.

That’s T.K.’s Two Cents.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

If you’re going to succeed, then you might as well enjoy it

“Some people feel uncomfortable having what they want. Receiving, or learning to live with your creation, is an essential phase of completion and hence of the creative process. It is the ability to receive the fruits of your endeavors.” -Robert Fritz

It is a common tendency to spend so much of our time trying to advance to the next stage of attainment, that we often forget how our current accomplishments were yesterday’s dreams.

In our moments of anticipation, we imagine ourselves feeling immense joy upon reaching our goals. Yet, when we arrive at the destination we once craved, we often disparage the significance of our success as if it were a matter of principle.

Here’s today’s two cents:

There are two sides to success: the physical and the psychological. The physical side is composed of the tangible results you achieve. The psychological side consists of the thoughts and feelings you have about those results.

There’s no purpose in pursuing physical success if you don’t allow yourself the psychological freedom to emotionally participate in your achievements.

You don’t have to be miserable if you fail, but if you’re going to succeed, then you might as well enjoy it.

Bring it

In sports, a distinction is made between the best team on paper and the best team on the field.

The former is regarded by critics to have superior talent while the latter demonstrates superior execution.

Sports history is filled with shocking stories of great athletes who found a way to lose (or underdogs who found a way to win) in spite of what everyone thought “should” have happened.

Sometimes, the best team “freezes up” under pressure. Sometimes, they lose their focus because of an adverse crowd. Sometimes, they underestimate their opponents or they overestimate their own talent. Sometimes, they waste too much time complaining to the referees or arguing with each other.

The reasons may vary but, simply put, the “best” team doesn’t always win.

The winners are the ones who “bring it” when it counts; they perform under pressure, they take the big shots, they dive for loose balls, they maintain composure when they’re losing, they stay focused when they’re leading, they keep their heads in the game, and they leave their hearts on the field.

Everything else is commentary.

Commentary may be fascinating, but interesting and intelligent conversation does not create champions.

Champions aren’t determined by the analysis of assets and advantages. The game must actually be played and the score can only be settled on the field.

Life is a game and it doesn’t matter if you’re regarded as a winner or an underdog.

Regardless of your status and your past record, you will be presented with the opportunity to show what you’re made of each and every day.

Either you will “bring it” or you’ll live to tell a “shoulda, coulda, woulda” story.

In my opinion, you deserve to be a champion.

So, I hope you “bring it.”

I hope you keep your head in the game and leave your heart on the field.

That’s T.K.’s Two Cents.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

Get out of the waiting room

What are you waiting for?

Are you waiting for permission?

Are you waiting on a running buddy or an exercise partner who will go to the gym with you?

Are you waiting on someone “in the industry” to tell you that you have what it takes?

Are you waiting on your spouse or significant other to start believing and/or doing the same things, so you wont have to be alone or rock the boat in your relationship?

Are you waiting to fall in love first?

Are you waiting until your health is at 100%?

Are you waiting for someone from your past to apologize to you?

Are you waiting on the market to prove your concept first?

Are you waiting on money, an audience, a break in your schedule?

Whatever you’re waiting on, don’t forget that the clock is still ticking while you’re sitting on the fence.

The days, months, and years are bound to pass you by if you keep waiting on someone other than you to say, “Go!”

You will never be ready. I repeat, you will never be ready.

Just like with parenting, you will be ready after you actually do it. And, even then, you may still question your readiness, but it wont matter anymore because you will be doing it.

There’s an unanticipated learning curve involved in every pursuit and being sure that you’ve made the “right decision” or adopted the “perfect approach” will not alter that simple fact.

Your plans will always require updating. Your visions will always require revisions. Your work will always have to be reworked. Your efforts will always have to be more finely tuned.

The sooner you start, the faster you will become ready.

That’s T.K.’s Two Cents.

Your friends are more important than your enemies

I have a list of names that I keep on a small piece of paper in my wallet. It’s comprised of the family members and friends that have made great sacrifices and contributions on my behalf. Whenever I catch myself brooding a bit too long over what some “idiot” did, I choose one of the names from that list and I call them, email them, or pray for them.

This practice has taught me a very pragmatic principle about releasing bitterness and letting go of resentment: one who forgives always has more to give.

The less energy we spend agonizing over the hurtful things that others have done, the more space we have in our hearts to share love with those who truly deserve our attention.

Think of all the loyal people who have been good to you and ask yourself, “Are my enemies more worthy of my precious time and my powerful thoughts than these dear ones?”

Instead of giving someone you hate a piece of your mind, try giving someone you appreciate a part of your heart.

That’s T.K.’s Two Cents.

Cheers,

T.K. Coleman

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