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You’ll never answer the last question, so make the first one count

Often times when people hear of an insight that could potentially change their lives, the first thing they do is test out its validity by trying to think of a counterexample that would discredit it.

For instance, when the idea known as “The Law of Attraction”, which is a very old concept by the way, became popularized through The Secret, many people were confronted for the first time in their lives with the possibility that they could play a more creative role in their experiences. But before putting the idea to serious practice, many individuals immediately responded with tough philosophical questions like:

If  we attract our experiences with our thoughts, then how do you explain the holocaust?

What does a tough-minded optimist do with tough questions?

Such questions are fair, as well as intriguing, but as one might imagine, they are quite delicate and difficult to answer in an emotionally satisfying way. Hence, it should come as no surprise that many people dismissed the Law of Attraction as untenable because it failed to provide, at least in their eyes, a compelling explanation for the problem of human suffering.

People respond to new ideas and suggestions quite routinely with skeptical questions and tough counterexamples. Tell someone that hard work pays off and they will point out an example of someone who worked really hard and still failed to have their big payday. Talk with them about the importance of investing and they’ll mention the one person they know who was scammed in a Ponzi scheme. Encourage them to follow their heart and they will demand an explanation for why the “follow your bliss” philosophy didn’t work for their Uncle.

I don’t think people do this to be difficult. I think people really do want to experience positive changes. I think people are simply evaluating ideas in accordance with what they’ve been taught is the rational thing to do.

Well, here’s my two cents on this whole issue:

Penny #1 For any given piece of advice, however good it may be, there will always exists at least one person for whom it does not seem to work
Penny #2: Every philosophy, no matter how comprehensive, will leave some important questions unanswered and some significant facts unexplained.

You don’t need these rules to be otherwise in order to find the point of view that’s right for you.

The questions don’t need to end in order for you to begin

Once we have waxed and waned philosophical about all the complexities of life, there is one question that stands above all others when everything is said and done:

Are my chances for creating a better quality life higher with or without this particular point of view? More plainly put, does this idea offer me the possibility of something more than what I currently have?

That’s a question that only you can answer, but when you’ve answered it, you’ve answered the question that really counts.

Don’t miss out on the opportunity to radically change your life just because the piece of advice you’ve been given doesn’t explain why the holocaust happened.  Don’t hold back on trying something that feels right for you because you can’t explain why that same course of action didn’t work for someone else.

Questions are fun and important. I would encourage anyone to do all the questioning their heart desires. Just don’t make the mistake of thinking you need to solve all the mysteries of life before you can answer the questions that are necessary for you to act on your dreams.

As one of my professor’s was fond of saying, “You’ll never answer the last question”, but if you make the first question count, it wont really matter.

That’s my two cents.


T.K. Coleman

TK’s Success School: Make your ideas “a-ffirm” reality!

Remember the cheesy affirmation guy from Saturday Night Live? If you don’t, click here to get updated. What the heck, click anyway just for kicks. A good laugh never hurt anyone.

On a serious note though, our friend Stuart Smalley was on to something big. Don’t let the Carlton Bank’s cardigan fool you.

Stuart understood the value of taking a look at the “man in the mirror” and explicitly verbalizing his ideals.

When I was a kid, I thought Stuart was a geek. Now he’s my hero. Am I getting that old? Well, I prefer to think of it as a growing recognition on my part of a truth that most adults realize sooner or later:

Happiness is the new cool!

“Stu” was definitely not the hippest cat on the block, but he was certainly the happiest. So in honor of him, I’d like to begin my first session of TK’s success school with a short lesson on that wonderful life changing tool known as “affirmations.” I hope you enjoy.

What are “affirmations”?

An “affirmation” is a positive statement or declaration, usually made in the present-tense, about a desirable condition or attitude that one wishes to create or manifest in his personal life.

Here are a few examples:

Abundance is my natural state. Therefore wealth flows into my experience effortlessly & easily.

Today I choose to see the Universe as a benevolent environment where beauty & goodness organically unfolds.

I am the Infinity of God individualized as “me”.

What is the purpose of saying affirmations?

The calm and confident recitation of affirmations, a practice sometimes referred to as “affirmative prayer” , “thought treatment”, or “faith confessions”, is a highly practical  tool for deliberately programming the mind to think along desired lines.

A great deal of our habitual thinking consists of little more than unconscious reactions to the events that arise in our lives. When we live our lives on auto-pilot in this manner, our mental state and corresponding mood becomes the passive effect of whatever seems to be happening in the world “out there” at any given time.

Living on auto-pilot significantly reduces the immense potential latent in our minds. It causes our natural state as the architects of our own destiny  to become  enslaved by an unhealthy preoccupation with external conditions. Consequently, our happiness, as well as our personal sense of power, begin to depend on the illusion that things have to go right for us. In this mode of being, our primary concept of “power” is that of an exterior force which compels us to think and behave in accordance with something other than our own power to choose. 

Affirmative prayer is one of many ways of taking back the control in your life. With practice and persistence, one can cultivate the habit of living life from the inside out; of seeing one’s perceptions as the cause of all that happens in life and not the effect.

Used as a compliment to productive action and not as a substitute, the saying of affirmations can lay firm groundwork for any individual’s path towards progress and personal empowerment.

You will find many affirmations I have written right here on this blog ranging from living a limitless life to overcoming fear, procrastination, and self-doubt.

Another very resourceful blog I recently discovered is The Affirm Your Life Blog. Che Garman has a very inspiring blog with many affirmations categorized by topic. You can also follow Che on Twitter as well for daily affirmations and quotes by clicking here.

In the very near future, I will provide helpful tips on how to get the most out of this practice. I’ll also give you advice on how you can improve the quality of your life through affirmations without turning into the guy from Saturday Night Live.

In the meantime, affirm the very best and eventually you’ll begin to live it.


T.K. Coleman

Full-time tough-mind

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