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I’m curious about your beliefs

Curiosity is a viable alternative to belief.

That is, if you can’t get yourself to believe in an idea, simply make up your mind to be curious about it.

By “curiosity”, I mean “the state of mind that is open to exploring something new or trying something different in an effort to see what happens next.”

So, let’s say you’re interested in starting a new business or you’re eager to put an end to a self-destructive habit:

The approach I am advocating would say “screw trying to make yourself believe that you’re going to succeed.” Instead, just try something different.

Take a chance on the unknown.


Let go of the pressure to know what you don’t know.

Release the burden of having to be certain of this or that.

Do something you haven’t done before and observe what happens.

Make notes. Improve what you can. Then, repeat the process.

The future doesn’t belong to the believers; it belongs to the explorers.

Having your mind made up, even if you’re right, wont automatically get you anywhere.

But being open to possibility will always give rise to new adventures, fresh insights, and fascinating discoveries.

So if you’ve got something to believe in, and it actually makes your life better, then don’t stop believing.

If, on the other hand, you have a hard time believing, or you simply don’t know what to place your faith in, try diving into the deep wild waters of visceral experience. You may not emerge with any creeds or dogmas, but you’ll find out what you’re made of. And knowing what you are made of will bring you greater value than most of the stuff people try to get you to believe anyway.

At least that’s the way I see it.


T.K. Coleman

If, in the process of exploring, you uncover any cool ideas, please let me know. I’m curious about your beliefs.

It’s called “self-help”, not “self-hate”

We all have the right to love ourselves regardless of our perceived flaws.

There is a dignity that comes with being human and this dignity exists prior to, and independent of, any improvements we need to make.

Self-help, personal development, and spiritual practice are not means by which we become worthy. They are simply disciplines through which we facilitate the acceptance and expression of our innate and unconditional value.

The power that fuels dreams

A good parent loves their child.

That doesn’t mean they enjoy waking up to comfort their crying baby in the wee hours of the morning.

That doesn’t mean they enjoy wondering where their teenage kid is when he’s an hour past his curfew.

That doesn’t mean they always feel comfortable when their son or daughter makes unorthodox decisions and seemingly poor choices.

That doesn’t mean they find it pleasant when their child whines and pouts about not getting their way.

That doesn’t mean they’re going to have a good time when, not if, they have to watch their child suffer.

All aspects of parenting are not easy and fun.

Nevertheless, a good parent loves their child.

And it’s the power of love, not the ability to find an easy way, that sees them through.

Dreams are the offspring of one’s soul.

And like all offspring, there are aspects of nurturing, cultivating, and supporting one’s dreams that simply aren’t easy or fun.

And as it is with a parent, it’s the power of love, not the ability to find an easy way, that sees dreamers through.

Give a damn!

Skill gets the job done, but the appearance of having skill gets the job.

Being qualified capitalizes the opportunity. Looking qualified creates the opportunity.

Character counts, but conversations rarely get started with character. They typically start with facial expressions, body language, style of dress, and a host of other so-called superficial elements.

Perception is not reality, but people wont show interest in the reality if the perception is too distracting.

Your personality is like a beautiful treasure sitting in the living room of a lovely home waiting to be adored. The perception people have of you is like the greeter at the front door of the home. If people can’t get pass that greeter, they’ll never see nor appreciate the beautiful treasure inside.

Here’s today’s two cents:

Give a damn about your appearance!

Giving a damn has nothing to do with playing by rules you don’t believe in.

Giving a damn is not about being prim, proper, and politically correct.

Giving a damn isn’t about making sure no one ever feels uncomfortable around you.

Giving a damn is about investing a modicum of energy into conducting yourself in a way that’s consistent with the results YOU want to create.

You can’t judge a book by its cover, but you can evaluate how the publisher wants the book to be perceived.

At least that’s the way I see it.


T.K. Coleman

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